Wednesday, August 02, 2006
FiVe ways to become a better dad
1. Be more active
If fathers don't start taking the initiative, they'll never be able to assume the child-rearing responsibilities they really want and that their children deserve. Instead of letting your partner pluck your crying or smelly baby from your arms, try saying something like, "I think I can handle things," or "That's okay, I really need the practice." There's also nothing wrong with asking her for advice: You both have insights that the other could benefit from.
2. Get more practice
Don't assume that your partner magically knows more than you do. Whatever she knows about raising kids, she learned by doing — just like anything else. And the way you're going to get better is by doing things, too. Don't be afraid to get help if you're uncertain or feel ill prepared to be a father. Programs are available to help fathers learn the basics of caregiving. Learning to be an active and involved father need not be restricted to the period just after the baby is born. There is no clear evidence that the period right after birth is in any sense the critical time for men to learn fathering skills or to develop emotional ties to their infants and children.
3. Take pride in the special way you are with your kids
Men and women have different ways of interacting with their children. Men tend to stress physical and high-energy activities; women, the social and emotional. But don't let anyone tell you that safely wrestling, bouncing on the bed, or other "guy things" are somehow not as important as the "girl things" your partner may do (or want you to do). The rough-and-tumble of father play also teaches valuable lessons about regulating emotions such as excitement and arousal. Children with physically active dads are more popular and more successful in their relationships with other children.
4. Be emotionally available to your children
Physical interaction is undoubtedly an important part of the father-child relationship, but being emotionally available and involved is critical, too. As John Gottman, author of "The Heart of Parenting," suggests, "Men must allow themselves to be aware of their feelings so they can empathize with their children. Then they must take whatever steps necessary to make themselves available to their kids."
5. Be a partner, not a helper
Despite the nostalgia of some conservative social critics for the idealized Ozzie-and-Harriet families of the 1950s, the traditional father-as-helper model is outdated and outmoded, and won't work nowadays. If men are going to be fully involved, they are going to have to share responsibility for the household and childcare in an active fashion.
If fathers don't start taking the initiative, they'll never be able to assume the child-rearing responsibilities they really want and that their children deserve. Instead of letting your partner pluck your crying or smelly baby from your arms, try saying something like, "I think I can handle things," or "That's okay, I really need the practice." There's also nothing wrong with asking her for advice: You both have insights that the other could benefit from.
2. Get more practice
Don't assume that your partner magically knows more than you do. Whatever she knows about raising kids, she learned by doing — just like anything else. And the way you're going to get better is by doing things, too. Don't be afraid to get help if you're uncertain or feel ill prepared to be a father. Programs are available to help fathers learn the basics of caregiving. Learning to be an active and involved father need not be restricted to the period just after the baby is born. There is no clear evidence that the period right after birth is in any sense the critical time for men to learn fathering skills or to develop emotional ties to their infants and children.
3. Take pride in the special way you are with your kids
Men and women have different ways of interacting with their children. Men tend to stress physical and high-energy activities; women, the social and emotional. But don't let anyone tell you that safely wrestling, bouncing on the bed, or other "guy things" are somehow not as important as the "girl things" your partner may do (or want you to do). The rough-and-tumble of father play also teaches valuable lessons about regulating emotions such as excitement and arousal. Children with physically active dads are more popular and more successful in their relationships with other children.
4. Be emotionally available to your children
Physical interaction is undoubtedly an important part of the father-child relationship, but being emotionally available and involved is critical, too. As John Gottman, author of "The Heart of Parenting," suggests, "Men must allow themselves to be aware of their feelings so they can empathize with their children. Then they must take whatever steps necessary to make themselves available to their kids."
5. Be a partner, not a helper
Despite the nostalgia of some conservative social critics for the idealized Ozzie-and-Harriet families of the 1950s, the traditional father-as-helper model is outdated and outmoded, and won't work nowadays. If men are going to be fully involved, they are going to have to share responsibility for the household and childcare in an active fashion.
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Wednesday, August 02, 2006 8/2/2006 3:23:06 pm (sayangzul) |
Tuesday, August 01, 2006
Is it TRUE?
Avoid SOYA if You WanT a BABY?....
Here’s the article:
Women should avoid eating too much soya if they are trying for a baby, a UK fertility expert believes.
A study in humans has shown a compound in soya called genistein sabotages the sperm as it swims towards the egg. Professor Lynn Fraser, from King’s College London, said even tiny doses in the female tract could burn sperm out.
She told a European fertility conference that avoiding soya around women’s most fertile days of the month might aid conception.
Long swim
Genistein is present in all soya-containing products such as soya milk and many vegetarian foods, as well as some pre-packed meals and pizzas.
It is also present in vegetables such as peas and beans, but the researchers say it is not yet clear if levels if the compound in these foods are significant.
Professor Fraser tested what happened to human sperm exposed to the compound in a dish in the lab.
The compound kick-started a reaction in a large proportion of the sperm that gives them the ability to fertilise an egg.
In real life, this does not usually happen until the sperm have been inside the female for some hours and are close to completing their long swim towards the egg.
Therefore, if women have genistein in and around the womb this could hamper conception by making sperm peak too soon, believes Professor Fraser.
This could mean they would not be able to fertilise the egg, she told the annual meeting of the European Society for Human Reproduction and Embryology.
Low concentrations
In mice she found it took higher doses of genistein to cause the reaction, but in humans very small doses were enough.
“We were really surprised. Human sperm proved to be even more responsive than mouse sperm to genistein, responding to very low concentrations - well within the amounts that have been measured in people’s blood.”
She said it was not yet known how much soya might be a safe amount to avoid this effect.
“It’s not a question of completely stopping eating products containing soya.
“But it might be best for a woman to avoid them for a few days around the time she is ovulating.”
‘Early days’
Professor Fraser’s previous work in mice showed that compounds similar to genistein - one found in hop-based products like beer - affect sperm in the same way.
These compounds are all weak oestrogens, but Professor Fraser does not believe that their action on sperm is the same as the female sex hormone.
Instead, genistein seems to trigger the production of a signalling molecule in sperm called cyclic AMP.
Dr Allan Pacey, Senior Lecturer in Andrology at Sheffield University and Secretary of the British Fertility Society said:
“It’s early days, but clearly if what happens in the laboratory also occurs in the woman’s fallopian tube as the sperm make their way to the egg, then there would be the potential for fertilisation to fail.”
A spokeswoman from the Vegetarian Society said: “For anyone struggling to become pregnant, avoiding soya products for a few days a month is worth a try if there is even a slim chance that it will help increase fertility.
“Obviously many vegetarians and vegans use soya in their diet, however as there are lots of vegetarian and vegan alternatives to dairy, milk and meat on the market, it shouldn’t pose a problem.”
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Tuesday, August 01, 2006 8/1/2006 12:58:17 pm (sayangzul) |
Monday, July 24, 2006
My Niece,Lini B'Day
Sat, 22 July 2006
Today at 4pm, Celebrate my Bro Doter, Lini Elfrini 7th Birthday @ Our Parents Home... We even had BBQ outside the home & all the food was cooked by Our BeLoVed Dad, Thanks Abah & BBQ by my Youngest Adik & GF... Thanks a lot ya... To my Cute & Luvly Niece, WakLin, Uncle Zul& Baby Adlin wish you a Hapy 7Th Birthday..moga jadi anak yg soleha & rajin2 belajar k & hope you can become fatter...hehe...
The Birthday Gerl
The BeLoVed Family
Today at 4pm, Celebrate my Bro Doter, Lini Elfrini 7th Birthday @ Our Parents Home... We even had BBQ outside the home & all the food was cooked by Our BeLoVed Dad, Thanks Abah & BBQ by my Youngest Adik & GF... Thanks a lot ya... To my Cute & Luvly Niece, WakLin, Uncle Zul& Baby Adlin wish you a Hapy 7Th Birthday..moga jadi anak yg soleha & rajin2 belajar k & hope you can become fatter...hehe...
The Birthday Gerl
The BeLoVed Family
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Monday, July 24, 2006 7/24/2006 12:20:16 pm (sayangzul) |
Wednesday, July 19, 2006
Went to Singapore Expo
Our Darling who is already ready to go to Singapore Expo...
Went to Singapore Expo on Sunday, 16th July 2006, for the Car Roadshow. The place was jampacked with people & we can see the people more than the cars ..hehe.. Managed to catch a picture with one of the Sales Executive, Shanley, a Beautiful Lady who helped to guide us on the procedures for buying car... Thanks Shanley
Went to Singapore Expo on Sunday, 16th July 2006, for the Car Roadshow. The place was jampacked with people & we can see the people more than the cars ..hehe.. Managed to catch a picture with one of the Sales Executive, Shanley, a Beautiful Lady who helped to guide us on the procedures for buying car... Thanks Shanley
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Wednesday, July 19, 2006 7/19/2006 5:08:47 pm (sayangzul) |
Tuesday, July 18, 2006
THANK YOU FOR VOTING
Helow my Dearest Fwen,
To all who have vote for her pix at Singapore Moms Website, thanks a million & to those who wanna vote, pls go to this website & vote for her k,
title:yes,me the cutest"... thanks
http://www.singaporemoms.com/community/node/44968
*U have to click @ her pix to vote for her.....
To all who have vote for her pix at Singapore Moms Website, thanks a million & to those who wanna vote, pls go to this website & vote for her k,
title:yes,me the cutest"... thanks
http://www.singaporemoms.com/community/node/44968
*U have to click @ her pix to vote for her.....
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Tuesday, July 18, 2006 7/18/2006 4:22:10 pm (sayangzul) |
